Yeah like she was so concerned about hurting his feelings with the rejection. And the fact that her parents were so gung-ho about it. It was very clear that it wasn’t what she wanted for herself but she felt pressured on all sides to accept.
Maybe she could’ve fallen for him but if the answer to, “can you imagine a future together with him?” made her as upset as it did I really doubt it.
Her advice was too careless. She should not have told her friend to call off the engagement. It would have been better to advice her to postpone the engagement instead to find out if she can find the man attractive after a period of courtship. It’s clear the friend is immature someone who is just scared of the idea of marriage not the marriage prospect being a friend of hers instead. She doesn’t seem like someone who could endure hardships in anyway. She probably comes from a well-to-do family where she’s been pampered so she’s a bit immature. It’s clear she probably won’t survive the gossip of the ton about her ‘audacity or stupidity’. Now, if things go wrong for the friend and she ends up regretting her decoseion, she will turn against fl as the source of her anguish. In real life people, don’t give this kind of advice cus 99% of the time the advised ends up regretting and turning against you, especially if the man is a good man and they realised they missed a gem
I’m not completely sure but I don’t think they were engaged to begin with and she just saw him as a friend. Imagine one of your close friends confessing to you out of nowhere, you’d reject them right? Since they are friends and nothing more and his feelings are completely onesided. I personally think that her advice was good in that Jane should think about her own feelings. Plus the guy who proposed should have thought it out more since he did it based on his own feelings and not taking her situation into account.
MiscMech
Yeah like she was so concerned about hurting his feelings with the rejection. And the fact that her parents were so gung-ho about it. It was very clear that it wasn’t what she wanted for herself but she felt pressured on all sides to accept.
Maybe she could’ve fallen for him but if the answer to, “can you imagine a future together with him?” made her as upset as it did I really doubt it.
MiscMech
Like, personally, I’d be fine marrying a close friend. It’s w/e, but she looked scared at the idea.
I Cant_Sleep
Her advice was too careless. She should not have told her friend to call off the engagement. It would have been better to advice her to postpone the engagement instead to find out if she can find the man attractive after a period of courtship. It’s clear the friend is immature someone who is just scared of the idea of marriage not the marriage prospect being a friend of hers instead. She doesn’t seem like someone who could endure hardships in anyway. She probably comes from a well-to-do family where she’s been pampered so she’s a bit immature. It’s clear she probably won’t survive the gossip of the ton about her ‘audacity or stupidity’. Now, if things go wrong for the friend and she ends up regretting her decoseion, she will turn against fl as the source of her anguish. In real life people, don’t give this kind of advice cus 99% of the time the advised ends up regretting and turning against you, especially if the man is a good man and they realised they missed a gem
JustAPasserby
I’m not completely sure but I don’t think they were engaged to begin with and she just saw him as a friend. Imagine one of your close friends confessing to you out of nowhere, you’d reject them right? Since they are friends and nothing more and his feelings are completely onesided. I personally think that her advice was good in that Jane should think about her own feelings. Plus the guy who proposed should have thought it out more since he did it based on his own feelings and not taking her situation into account.